How To Find Intimacy In Relationships


Dear Sirah,

I feel very close to my boyfriend but I have kept so many things a secret. There are stories about my life I have never shared and I don’t understand why I am afraid to open up and tell the truth about them. What do you think is getting in my way? -BR


Your clearly feeling some level of shame or embarrassment, otherwise why hold onto something that was part of your journey from the past. Part of how we become more intimate with our partner is to become more intimate with ourselves. The more we accept, love and value who we are, the less likely there will be a need to hide something. Most people go around fearing their shadow but it follows them everywhere. Stop being afraid of yourself and just let go and tell the truth. It will set you free! True intimate love will show up for you when you know yourself really well and become intimate with yourself.