The Frustration of Not Being Able to Change Things

“When we can no longer change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” ~Viktor Frankl

 We all have certain things that are not within our control. Sometimes it is very difficult to determine what circumstances are within our realm to change. The worse thing we can do is ignore how we feel because that feeds the “out of control” emotional confusion inside.

 When we bottle up our emotions around not being able to control a difficult situation and they range from desperation, anger, rage, frustration, hurt, resentment, despair, and sorrow. These feelings come with a price tag. We walk around feeling like a victim of circumstance and sorry for ourselves. 

 There are also times where we look around at other people and wonder why they have so much, a drama-free life, perfect children, ideal health, good genes for youth, a better car, a nicer community, etc. 

 The hardest part of shifting from victim to acceptance is to realize things don’t happen to you, they happen for you and your greater good. 

 An exercise I recommend is to make a list of all the things you can’t control. Be very specific and detailed about what they are. On the opposite side of the page write an alternative feeling to the statement. For example, “My neighbor is a hoarder and has a yard filled with smelly garbage.” a new thought is “I surround my neighbor with healing light over the fear they have of letting go.”

 The transformative energy of a different feeling creates a new emotional state within and leads to a better place. Whatever change needs to happen must start within your own being. 

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